I personally think it's a good idea at times and I have used a leash with Lucian. I used to raise an eyebrow at people who used leashes — until I became the parent of a curious toddler.
The thing that bugs me is the way people stare or when family members have chastised me for using one, whether they have kids or not. I didn't use it all the time, just times when I was with him by myself or just feeling extra insecure in an unfamiliar place like a big city with lots of cars. I plan on using a leash with our next child when I feel necessary as well, but I'm not looking forward to the way I feel when people stare at me. I won't let it stop me though.
I'm curious. What is the big freakin deal, people? Why do you stare at parents who choose to use a leash with their kids? Isn't it better than just letting their kids run wild all over the place? People complain about that as well.
I just want to be a good mother and using a leash makes me and my child feel safe. Isn't that what's most important? Isn't it better to give your child a little bit of space rather than digging your fingernails into their flesh or yanking their arms out of their sockets from dragging them? I've seen that happen and I don't want to use that method if I can help it. Parking lots and crowded malls are very scary places! You'll pull your kid by his hair or his eyelashes if that's the nearest thing on them when a car darts out at you!
It takes some practice to use a leash. It can be tricky and downright dangerous sometimes, but once you get the hang of it, you feel much more secure. If you plan on using a leash, be sure to practice somewhere first like your back yard or some place where you and your child can roam before you use it in public.
Do me a favor, next time you see a parent using a leash with their child, please smile at them and just know they are trying to do what they feel is best for their safety and security.
Thanks!
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